Sunday, November 28, 2021

Some advice for your 20s from random strangers

See if you are into exercising. Find something you love. Not everyone love weightlifting or jogging so try to find something you enjoy and better if you find a partner. The point is from my experience human vitality does not decrease continuously buy drops sharply after certain age. On my side it was 28 and 35.

Take care of joints and teeth. Once they degenerate it's impossible to reverse the process.

Get financials straight. Know tricks to increase your credit score and keep it as high as you can. Also knows to invest a bit and make sure not to borrow money to invest because you are probably not that good.

Find something you can spend a life on. Something fundamental such as astronomy, mathematics, physics, geology, etc. The point is not to excel at these things, but to find consolence when you feel being ditched by the whole world. Reason I recommend those topics because not only you understand the world better after studying them but your mind will be sharper.  Also look into like learning music (guitar, piano, etc.), painting, writing (novels, poetry, short stories, comics, etc.) and other forms ofc...

Stay away from gambling unless you are very disciplined. And if you do, don't play against the house and don't borrow money to gamble.

Stay away from drugs. Maybe stay away from smoking too. You don't need those for "artistic inspiration" or other enhancements. Exercising and reading get you much further. Enhancements through medication also bring side effects in the long run.

Build your personal brand. Be sound and reasonable. Knows how to communicate effectively. Learn to speak in public. Soft skills are tough to pick up and grow. 

Start investing. You don’t have to learn a ton about picking stocks — start by consistently putting money into a robo-advisor like Wealthfront or Betterment. This compounds; a small amount of money invested now will be more impactful than a large amount of money invested later.

If your job offers a 401k, contribute as much as possible. If you can afford it, max it out. This also compounds.

Appreciate your body. Years down the line, you will have to expend a lot of money and effort to look the way you look right now for free. I used to love having long hair in my teens and early 20s; now I need to take hair loss drugs. Related: start exercising. The aforementioned money and effort will be much less if you build up good exercise habits now.

Learn to cook. Cook a variety of things. This saves money and becomes more important socially as you age.

Take a hobby seriously. I’ve played guitar for almost 15 years, but haven’t tried to really up my technical skills until recently, and now there’s a long road ahead of me until I can play what I want. Whatever you decide to do, when you get serious about it you’ll wish you had done so years prior. Related: if you’re in tech, finish your side projects. It takes a lot of dedication, especially in the home stretch, but it’s much more satisfying to be able to point to one finished thing you made than a dozen abandoned works in progress. 

Music and/or drawing. These are both long curve activities where the more you put in, the more you get out. For example, fooling around with a ukulele for a year or two really improved my guitar later (especially fingerpicking!) when I wanted to get more serious about it. Even though I'm still not very good, I'm not trying to be a rockstar or a professional musician, and I can do a lot of nice things with it. Now I'm re-learning music theory I was told about in high school, and it's feeling interesting and useful.

It's very much an enriching experience that constantly feels worthwhile, but it's been years in unfolding for me. These things build over time just as much as interest does on bank accounts.

Start saving, even for very small amounts. Compound interest can work wonders.

Start seeing a dentist every ~6 months. You won't have any issues for many years, so you may think that it's wasted time/money, but one day things will start going downhill and you will be prepared. Note that many tooth or gum issues cannot be reversed. Beware of what you put into your mouth. Too much chocolate/sugar? To much acidic food/citrus? Take care. Take things in moderation. 

As someone else mentioned, don't be afraid to experiment. You will mostly regret the things you haven't done, not the other way around.

Take care of yourself, try to stay fit, but don't worry about the things you do wrong too much. 

Because folks in their 20s are usually in a process of self-discovery / growth / change, try to develop the habit of making sure you are investing in friendships that matter and are aligned with your goals. This sounds cold and calculating, but learning to step away from toxic/misaligned friendships and double down on friendships / connections / mentorships that dovetail with and proactively (and symbiotically) support your goals is one of the most difficult-to-measure super powers. It doesn't pay immediate dividends, but if you look at most successful / accomplished people, you realize they're skilled at doing this (implicitly or not).

Speaking of negative loops: personally, I found removing alcohol from my diet to be one of the simplest and most profound overall quality-of-life upgrades. 

And don't worry too much about investing. Open a Schwab / Etrade account and put $100 in it. Just break the "investing seal." Treat it like a little savings account to start with. And then slowly add to your portfolio. The critical step is making the account. This will allow future decisions to flow more easily. 

Don't hesitate to move locations if that can improve your career or other prospects. This gets progressively harder to do later in life.

Get to know people who are 5 and 10 years ahead of you in your career track. This will push you out of your bubble of same age peers.

There's a high likelihood that you're wrong about many things about the world in your 20's. The effect of cognitive biases (read up on them) is also non-negligible at this age. So make sure you have a feedback mechanism to validate whatever it is that you think are learning. Otherwise it's possible to be wrong about things for years without realizing it.

Learn at least one hard skill that can be measured objectively in some way (if you haven't already). It could be programming, maths, music, sports etc. Once you know what it feels like to genuinely learn something, you're less likely to fool yourself when learning other things later in life.

Develop friendships and other relationships if you find people you gel with.

Don't get too out of whack, health wise. Try a bunch of physical activities until you find one you enjoy doing on a regular basis.

20s are a time when you are at the bottom of the power hierarchy in the corporate world and probably socially and politically as well. So beware of anti-authority, outsider-types figures who'll use this resentment to sell you simplistic solutions to everything. At the same time, keep in mind that power corrupts. Chesterton's fence and all that. 

Read every damn day. Read in your field proactively - stuff you don't need to know yet. Read stuff tangentially related to your field. Read the stuff most people in your field don't know (sales! business! negotiation! psychology!) This has been the bedrock of my entire career. I now make a comfortable upper middle class salary working 20-24h a week as a consultant, allowing me to do grad school in areas of personal interest, and I didn't even do comp sci in uni, or start programming professionally until I was 30. But I probably read 1-2 hours a day and have read a lot over the last three decades. It has paid off massively. Learning to write is important too, but recently there has been a trend in telling everyone they need to write daily. If you write more than you read, you're doing it wrong and are probably a shit writer wasting your time. (Real Writers who have done an extended period of MASSIVE reading excluded..)

Learn soft skills: writing, communicating, negotiating, reading a room. I did this by doing door to door canvassing in my 20's for an environmental group, haha. Trial by fire. Once you've spent some time hitting rich folks in West Vancouver for money to save trees, you aren't afraid of any meeting. (No German Shepherd ready to roam out onto the road and scare me off? I got this.)

Have a hobby that you can build a life-long practice habit around. I recommend this be something that you don't plan to pivot your career to so you don't ever take your eyes off long term development for short term gain. Music is a popular one, but there are lots of other options. The point of it is to get good and consistent at highly focused solitary skill development. Warren Buffet famously credited playing an instrument as his biggest advantage. I've taught a bunch of juniors to code now, and the ones who already had this skill basically had rockets on their feet. One of my friends who has been a silicon valley exec many times over said "I always hire the musicians".

Lots of other things are important, but for me, those are the big three. Start doing those now and you'll have a very attractive career in your 30's and 40's. 

Build a reading habit. Books have evolved as a central tenet of knowledge preservation of societies for a reason - they contain a lifetime of wisdom in a few hours of consumption. Read books that are 10+ years old, like High Output Management, The Mythical Man Month, and Good Strategy / Bad Strategy. They’re written by people who have done great things and condensed great lessons, don’t underestimate the depth of the words and revisit them often! Regarding books: the older, the better. There's a reason they're still around. Read the classics. Other advice: consistency is key to be good at anything. It's better to do 5 or 10 minutes a day every day than once a month for a full day.

Make at least 2 really close friends that you can tell anything, preferably outside of work. You can make friends at work, just make sure you keep the friendship and hang out afterwards since work can distort relationships. As you get older it’s generally harder to make friends, but just as important to have them - so make them young!

Exercise is great, has been mentioned multiple times. Carve out an hour a week, start small, but be consistent. Healthy body = healthy mind! 

 Friends and family and community. This is actually more important than all other advice in this thread (I never say that kind of thing, but it's true here). They will be there for you when you can't be there for yourself. The HN community is giving good advice, and a community that knows you personally will give you even better advice. Modernity is hard on friendships and community so it takes some work to get started and maintain.

Exercise. In your 20s, someone who lifts is just bigger. In your 30s and 40s, someone who lifts is actually fitter, and it diverges from there.

Music. I have just started learning piano. "Where has this been all my life?" The skill compounds, and it's a huge help.

Meditation, if you can avoid the mainstream stuff. 

Nic Carter said offhandedly, "I think writing is one of the most high leverage activities available to young people". What a brilliant observation! Learn about urbanism because you'll have to choose many places to live. Don't get drunk and then lose the next day because you have a hangover. Learn to read books on your laptop (I like amazon cloud reader with OLED laptop), so you can have less physical stuff to move. Learn at least one crowd-pleaser meal so you can invite people over for dinner. Buy assets. Switch jobs every year (its a dumb system but this is how you increase your pay).

Travel when you’re young. Get a working holiday visa in Canada, Australia, Japan or UK. Go live. 

Exercise! Can’t emphasize this enough! Makes you happier and healthier. Also a harder habit to adapt later in life.

Don’t do drugs, gamble, drink, or watch tons of porn.

Do read. Books. Not kindles. Books.

Be part of a regular community. That could be church, a sports team, chorus, etc.

Invest. Put money in an SP500 index fund. Especially if retirement accounts available.

Don’t be an asshole.

If you need therapy, get therapy. Take a Carnegie course. Even taking etiquette lessons can help.

Learn to cook. You’ll save so much money and eat much better food.

Get a pet. Having a pet is a lifestyle, and a good one.

Consider having kids. It’s rare people say “I wish I never had children.” Early 20s might be too early, but there’s no perfect time.

Also, have fun! 

There are already many great suggestions from others with a number of positive things you can do that will most likely have a good impact on your future, now it's all about you making choices. I'll give you just one and a simple one that I found to be an essential building block when growing up and trying to make sense out of things around which can sometimes become overwhelming. Exercise independent thought and awareness of yourself (self-inquiry) and those around you. Give yourself time to do it, sink it in. Time invested in understanding yourself will bring great appreciation for life which will lay a solid foundation for all the positive things to come in your future.

Don't be afraid to experiment, but "partying" should be kept to a minimum and only for socializing. Also, avoid debt as much as you realistically can. If you're taking out loans for school, don't be afraid to pick up a flexible part time job doing retail or waiting tables (this helped me keep my student loans much lower than they could have been). Source: personal experience. In my opinion partying that makes you happy should be kept at maximum in your 20'. That doesn't mean you should overconsume alcohol and substances. Go out, meet new people, have fun. Travel and party at various places around the world. Experience.

Warning: focusing on your retail job during school to reduce loans is a local optimization, not a global one. Minimum wage is low and a high salary can make very short work of loans. Study hard and work even harder on your internships. Career relevant experience is king.

Debt is a tool and nothing to fear if you know how to use it. Many fortunes have been made with debt. Many lost as well. The key is knowing that you're using a tool. It seems to me that many people just start borrowing, the same way they suddenly start being attracted to the opposite sex. "Oh, it's just a mortgage, and house prices go up." "It's just my second credit card, of course I can pay it off in three weeks." Good debt is a conscious decision, made when there's a strategy, not as a default path. Overall, it seems prudent to ask people in general to not go into debt, so they are more willing to think it through. Rather than just going with the flow because the store clerk said "you can walk out of here with both the jewelry and a credit card with a $20k limit!" 

And the drugs, yeah that's pretty spot on. Careful with those. 

Exercise - helps you think better, helps you feel better, helps you emotionally. Find something you like doing - I do power lifting and yoga - and get in the habit of doing it daily.

Explore - odds are your career isn’t really going to take off until your late 20s at the earliest, because frankly until then you’re just not going to be very good. Spend the time to learn everything you can from everyone you can and try anything you can - experience now pays dividends later. Accept that you’re young and inexperienced, be humble, don’t pretend you know what you’re doing when you don’t, and you’ll come out of this decade miles ahead of where you start.

Oh, and - you’ve got 60 years ahead of you, statistically speaking. Probably no more, probably no less. Plan accordingly. 

Decide where you want to be after you retire. If you want to lie on a beach all day or travel the world, it's probably easier to get a job that lets you do that instead of waiting for later. In many cases you can achieve your goals with an order of magnitude less savings, and often optimizing for higher income may be counterproductive.

Don't spend 4 or more years in college for nothing. The degree greatly helps you accumulate points for Immigration to Canada, Australia or other countries if you decide to immigrate later in your life. Use college time as a time to cultivate lifelong friendships with worthwhile people. 

I would say finish university (if you haven't), it should give you good theoretical knowledge in the field you want. Also learn other languages. These are things that are more difficult to learn later.

In general, in those years, you should take biggest risks and try to do/learn the most difficult stuff you can find and you are interested in. Do not prematurely tie yourself to a job that doesn't provide a sufficient challenge. (You can always make more money later.)

The life is a negotiation with reality about what you can accomplish. Do not set your initial offer too low. 

Unless you have a good network of friends in the area where you plan to live long-term, start making more friends or find a social hobby which can give you an instant network where you move. (Dancing worked for me, but sport clubs or other events should work too). It's much harder to make friends in your 30s when people spend more time with their families. No experience with 40s yet, but extrapolating, I suspect it becomes close to impossible :)

Think for yourself, don't take for granted what others are saying. Prevalent opinions in society can be wrong. Herds aren't always right.

Learn as much as you can.

Be curious.

Start investing early.

Read. This will get you an edge against most people today.

Enjoy life.

Be kind. 

Here are some things that may help your quality of life several decades from now.

Financial health:

* Start saving a large chunk of your income and invest it wisely in assets that will provide value over the long term. Avoid get rich quick schemes.

Physical health:

* Exercise everyday, preferably for a minimum of 30 minutes (it doesn't have to be a single session).

* Eat well, meaning, you can eat in tasty and highly indulgent foods, but develop the habit to eat more of whole and unprocessed/minimally processed foods.

* Related to the previous point, cooking is a life skill that will help manage your budget and health better. Learn to cook and try to cook at least one meal a day, if not all meals for the day.

* Sleep well and rest well during your waking hours.

Mental health:

* Related to the point about sleep and rest, try to regularly review your interactions online and offline, and cut off those that are not productive or those that make you feel worse, increase stress, etc. Good relationships can uplift you a lot, and bad relationships can make every other achievement pointless.

* Try out meditation, and if you're sure about your mental health, try a meditation retreat (even once is enough for a different perspective).

* It's natural to get extremely angry and upset about many things in this world. Practice some detachment if possible (this depends on your background and situation).

Odds and ends:

* Measure and track what you value. Without measurement, you won't realize how far you've reached or how far you've deviated from your desired states.

* Enjoy life through whatever provides you joy. Don't get guilt tripped by others on this front.

* Though related to health, I'm keeping this for the last since it may be very controversial. Avoid or drastically minimize the consumption of alcohol, smoking, and also caffeine if you can. The accumulated damage from these over decades cannot be reversed (well, if you have good genes, then it's a different matter). 

Keep yourself fit. Get a workout program and stick with it. Eat well. Educate yourself financially. Understand how to save, invest etc. Build a good network of mentors, friends etc. who you can talk to in the long term. Build a closer tribe of close friends who you interact with more frequently. Reject fear (since piece of advice I'd give my 23 year old self). Stay aggressive. And don't forget to enjoy the results of the above. :) 

Read biographies of great people across all walks of life. Personally I got a great deal from reading about Thomas Edison, Richard Feynman, Winston Churchill, Nikola Tesla, etc. Also basic psychology, e.g. cognitive biases, Maslow's Pyramid, physiology. Watch documentaries about various industries, manufacturing, construction, etc. Understand basic accounting and finance principles.

Exercise every day.

Meet one new person everyday.

Nurture your older relationships and don't let it falter.

Spend an hour learning everyday. Newspapers, courses, skills.

Travel regularly to see new places and people.

Be open minded. Don't imprison yourself in your beliefs, values, judgment.

Write a one-page journal every night before sleep.

Find joy in simple regular everyday things by practicing mindfulness. Food, sleep, nature, hikes, music, play.

Meditate 20 minutes a day.

Save half of your money and invest in all-world diversified stock market and never sell. 

Start writing things down. If you have a terrible memory like me you might regret not documenting more of your life, especially because so many things happen in your 20s. I've started a weekly journal in my 30s and I'm so happy that I did. It's also worth doing the same for things at work. Having a few stories written down about features you've implemented or bugs you've fixed may help you get through a few interviews. 

Take care of your teeth (drop soda) and skin. Exercise too.

Travel as much as you can. Get a job abroad if you can.

Study languages. They compound: french will make your English richer, Spanish will make it easier to get into French, Russian will make you understand some of the other slavic languages, etc. English, Spanish, Russian, and French cover a large portion of the earth. Also, as you get into a language and its culture, your understanding of the world will grow. 

Get wild, just don’t make permanent mistakes like taking hard drugs or getting killed in a car accident.

The "boring things" that compound over time like - a fitness routine - yearly check ups with your physician and dentist - invest 10% of what you earn (no matter how little it may be but make it a habit)

Learn how your mind works (eg. read "waking up" by sam harris and know that people don’t think as much about you as you might think. Therefore don’t spend money you don’t have to impress them.

Keep learning in general and have fun in your profession - not in "fun every day" but don’t become one of those people who drag themselves to work just to make ends meet.

Travel within your means. There is a lot of fun in learning about different cultures. The best way is not so sit in a pricy hotel room.

Keep strong relationships with friends and family if possible. A supportive network of people that care about you can be very hard to build when your older and might be worth more than money some times in your life.

You‘re going to do better than a lot of your peers with these simple things. 

Find something to stay curious about.

Start a family. Have kids. Maintain relationships with family members. Get married, have multiple kids. Or not! Not everyone can have or will have kids. Your life can be awesome without marriage. Your marriage can be awesome without kids. Finally some real advice. Go out, meet people, fall in love. True. Having children is the most meaningful thing anyone can do in their life.

Not comprehensive, but do this and you'll be light years ahead of everyone else your age (in order of importance).

Learn how money works, I don't mean how you buy stuff with it, but how money and debt actually work. If you get this squared away now you'll be better off than 80-90% of everyone else, it does taking a bit of a more pessimistic (realist) mindset. If you don't know where uncollectable financed debt goes or how financial instruments work to lower your monthly costs, or how your wages compare year over year in real purchasing power (i.e. whether you are making less the longer you stay at a job) then you don't know enough. Most people fall into a usury trap set by predatory banking institutions at some point.

Always risk manage big decisions and figure out what the ROI is for those decisions ahead of time. Do your research. Have a plan of action before you do something that locks you in for longer than a year. Don't trust the salesperson.

If a college degree you are interested in doesn't have a good ROI, don't major in it, or consider traveling internationally to a school where the ROI makes sense. You need to have your education paid off by the time you are 28-30 without outside help and promises of jobs at graduation are often fluff, consider the risks as well (are there hidden factors that might prevent graduation within a time period just as an example).

Learn how to negotiate, constantly determine whether they have credibility. If you are too agreeable you can't leverage the things you'll need later, and there is no basis for further negotiation when one party lacks credibility. Being able to walk away is valuable. Don't get caught in a circular logic trap, you decide what you want to do and no one else, you don't need to explain why because if they can't respect the decision then you have nothing to talk about because they've lost credibility.

Don't get taken advantage, your time is valuable, many people in their 20s discount their professional experience and subsequently get paid much less, or worked more; most places take advantage at some point unless you reasonably push back, as an example this can include sudden changes to shifts where they know you have prior commitments but they call and ask anyway (i.e. classes). Be wary of illusory promises as well and learn about the psychology and tactics you might face from these influencers. Understand Burnout and what you need to do to fix it.

Learn how to communicate effectively in writing at a professional level. Spelling, grammar, punctuation, and word choice all affect interactions. People will treat you differently based on how you present yourself (that includes appearance, odor, speech as well).

If you make a mistake, own it. Ask questions, improve, don't own/accept something that isn't your mistake.

Learn how to effectively learn and build the long term habits you'll need later, whether that's adjusting your diet or something else. (hint, don't give yourself the choice whether you follow through but have criteria/rules for exceptions and understand attention is finite, do what you need to structure the change accordingly).

Learn how to deal with liars and how to hold them accountable and don't lie. Almost all interactions moving forward will have some small lie where they can't easily be held accountable (Document details, memorialize, in writing, case-build, who you spoke to, when, what, etc) and fight for the rights have. If you are working to deal with an issue, realize what people can and can't do at various levels. Customer support, corporate, overseeing regulatory body, congressional representative that supports or oversees the area.

Build Discipline and other habits which make doing new things easier.

Be able to defend yourself, take Brazilian Jui Jitsu as a starter (this builds discipline), then some firearms training to understand how accurate guns are and how they work and are used.

Be able to survive, know how to start a fire that burns 8 hours without attention (putting a log on) and what you can and can't eat, how to prepare emergency food that doesn't need refrigeration, and what kind of preparations you need if the supply chain breaks down for necessities (shelter, water, food, safety).

Spend some time at the library reading up on historic events, everything happens in regular cycles, knowing and preparing to capitalize on certain events can ensure your safety and future prosperity. Also, most of the history you learned in high school if its US based is likely a biased narrative and useless, in many cases it may not even be all that accurate (i.e. Panama, West/East Berlin, Latin America 1950+). 

Stay hungry, stay foolish!


Friday, April 30, 2021

शुभप्रभात v0.2

 सर्जकमा नमन 

नयाँ दिनको शुभकामना ! सुर्य, चन्द्र, पृथ्वी, वायु, जल, अग्नि, आकाश सबै चलायमान छन् र त जीवन छ ! सम्पुर्ण चराचर जसले यो मेरो अस्तित्व सम्भब बनाएका छन् ती सबैमा कोटिकोटी नमन् । म यो आजको दिन पनि सदाझैँ मेरा सर्जकमा अर्पण गर्दछु । Thank you for this wonderful day!

काम

पहिलो कुरो, आजको दिन के के गर्नु छ प्रमुख २-३ कामहरु आफुले देख्ने गरी Todo कार्डमा लेखेर राख्नु नत्र झिनामसिना कुरामा अल्झियेर गर्नु पर्ने काम गर्न बिर्सिन सक्छ ।

केही गरि गर्न पर्ने काम गर्न मन लागेन, अल्छी लाग्यो, झिजो लाग्यो, दिक्क लाग्यो, पछिलाइ थाती राख्ने मन भयो भने ५ मिनेट जसरी तसरी त्यो काम गर्न सुरु गरेको जस्तो गर्नु । यसो गर्दा काम को सुरुवात हुन्छ र गर्ने जाँगर लागेर आउँछ । काम सकिनु भन्दा पनि कामको सुरुवात हुनु महत्त्वपूर्ण हुन जान्छ । सुरु नै नभए कसरी progress हुन्छ?

Victory Log

आज के के भयो? के सफल भयो? स-साना सफलताले motivation दिई राक्छ, यस्ता स-साना सफलता हाँसेर, नाचेर, आफुले माया गर्ने ब्यक्ती, आफुलाइ care गर्ने ब्यक्ती संग cherish गर्नु । कोहि नभए लेखेर Victory Log बनायेर राख्नु । सफलताको acknowledgement र celebration जरुरी छ । यसले आफुलाइ आफ्ना काम र कर्तव्यबोध गराइराक्छ अनि मेहनति र disciplined बनीरहन झक्झक्याउछ । यस्तो आदत छैन भने बिस्तारै बानी बसाल्न कोसिस गर्नु । यस्ता १-२ Positive habits हरुले long-term मा जिन्दगीलाइ राम्रो दिशा दिन सक्छन ।

बोली वचन

हरेक दिन अनेक मानिसहरुसंग व्यवहार गर्नुपर्ने हुन्छ। बोलीचाली गर्नु पर्ने हुन्छ। आफु bad mood मा भएको बेला खराब बोलि नबोल्नु। mood समय अनुसार परिबर्तन हुन्छ। एकै छिन रमाइलो लागिरहेको हुन्छ, एकै छिन मा नरमाइलो लाग्न सक्छ। कुनै पल खुसिले गदगद भएको हुन्छ भने कुनै पल रिस या पिडामा मन अल्झिरहेको हुनसक्छ। mood परिवर्तनशिल छ तर बोलेको बोलि कहिलेइ फिर्ता हुन सक्दैन। त्यसैले आफ्नो बोलि हर हमेसा मृदुभाषी राख्नु। मिठो बोल्नु, नरम बोल्नु, सबैलाई माया दया बाड्नु। रिस, राग, गालि, गलौज नगर्नु। बोलि छ र त संसार यति रमाइलो छ।

केेटाकेटी

मान्छे ठुलो जन्मिदैन ! केहि न आए केटाकेटीलाइ हेर्नु, सुन्नु उनीहरु जस्तै बेफिक्री हाँस्नु, खेल्नु, कुद्नु, रमाउनु नसके कोसिस गर्नु भन्छन त्यस्तै गर्नु । कुनै चाह छैन, केहि आशा छैन, केहि प्रसङ्ग चाहिदैन मनमा जे आयो निस्फिक्री गरेको छ, जे आयो बोलेको छ, जे मन लायो खेलेको छ, बिनाकारण हाँसेको छ। धेरै आउदैन भन्ने चिन्ता छैन, जानेको छैन भन्ने संकोच छैन। कसैले केहि भन्लान भन्ने डर छैन किनकि त्यहाँ गलत केहि गरिएको छैन। सानो शब्दभण्डार बाट निस्किने शब्दले कसलाई पिरोल्लान र ? सानो परिधी भित्र घुमेका गतिबिधिहरुले कसको टाउको दुखाउलान र? तै, तिनै गतिबिधि रमाइला भइदिने। तै तिनै बोलीले मिठास छरिदिने। सानाले देख्न, बुज्न, सिक्न, गर्न धेरै छ। त्यसैले साना अनुभबहिन प्रति माया दया को भावना राख्नु। त्यसै अनुसारको व्यवहार र बोलि गर्नु। केटाकेटीको माझमा सकिन्छ भने आफु पनि केटाकेटी बन्नु। बाल्यकालका सम्झना फेरी ताजा बनाउनु।

Time as Gift

जीवनमा केहि उपहार कसैलाई दिनु छ भने आफ्नो समय दिनु। समय जीवन हो। कसैलाई समय दिनु, आफ्नो attention दिनु भनेको आफ्नो त्यो अमुल्य, नफर्किने समय बाढ्नु हो। कोहि कसैलाई judge नगर्नु, सकिन्छ compliment दिनु, अनुहारमा मुस्कान दिनु, मिठो बोलि दिनु, उनीहरुका सुख,दुख सुनिदिनु, बधाईका ढाप दिनु। सफलताका handshake दिनु। जिन्दगि के छ र ? यिनै सानातिना अनुभबहरु दोहोरिनु न हो ! किन रिसिनु छ र ? कि न रुमल्लिनु छ र ?

पढ्ने बानी र Discovery सोच 

जिन्दगि एउटा खोज हो। नयाँ अनुभबको खोज हो। नयाँ सोचको खोज हो। सृजित अनुभब र सोचहरु सबै यहि छन्। बस तिनको discovery महत्वपूर्ण बनिदिन्छ। मान्छेले गर्न बाँकी केहि छैन। सोच्न बाँकी केहि छैन। त्यसो भन्दैमा आफुले गर्ने केहि नभेट्नु या आफुले सोच्न सकिएन भन्नु कत्तिको जायज होला ? यो खोजी को process मा हरेक दिन केहि नयाँ पढ्नु। जीवन अझ मनोरम बनाउन के गर्न सकिन्छ हर समय कोसिस गर्नु। कोसिस गर्ने न हो। यो खोज दैनिकी बनोस। पढ्ने बानि दैनिकी बनोस।




Deliberate Practice

केहि कुरा पुरानो या नयाँ सिक्न होस् या आफुले जानेको कुरामा expertise प्राप्त गर्न होस् practice जरुरि छ।Practice, practice, practice यसको बिकल्प छैन। आफुले already जानेको कुरो फेरी फेरी दोहोर्याएर गरिराख्नु लाई मात्रले practice र learning/पढाई सफल हुदैन। धेरै जसो यस्तो हुन्छ कि दैनिकी एकोहोरो बनिदिन्छ अनि हरेक दिन उही प्रकृतिका क्रियाकलाप र काम गर्दा गर्दै दिन सकिएको पत्तो हुदैन। त्यस्तो भयो भने experience gain होला तर expertise develop हुदैन। सो, Practice गर्दा आफुलाई challenge गर्नु जरुरि छ। Practice को लागि आफ्नो क्षमता भन्दा थोरै माथिको कुरो गर्न प्रयत्न गर्नु, आफ्नो performance analyze गर्नु अनि mistakes हरु केहि भेटिए त्यसलाई सुधार गर्नु। यो process दोहोर्याउनु।  फेरी practice गर्नु अनि त्यसपछि फेरी गर्नु। Practice deliberately गर्नु नकि यत्तिकै बहकिएर। Self improvement deliberate practice को परिणाम हो। पढाई, खोजाई, बुझाई, discovery तब अर्थपूर्ण हुन्छ जब त्यसले deliberate practice भेट्छ। यो दैनिकी बनोस। दिनको केहि समय आफ्नो skills र craft improve गर्न deliberately practice गर्नु।   


Best and Worst

दैनिकीका केहि कामहरुमा आफु best हुनु, बन्नु। अनि केहि काम कुरा हरुमा आफु worst performer हुनु। आफु best र expert भएर कार्य गर्दा कामहरु आफुले lead गर्न सकिन्छ, अनि अरुलाई आफ्ना सोचाई र गराईले प्रेरणा दिन सकिन्छ। जब आफु worst performer भईन्छ तब अरु जान्ने र expert हरु बाट सिक्न पाइन्छ। 

Share Your Knowledge

जमाना प्रबिधिको छ। नजानेका कुरा सिक्न अनि जानेकाकुरा सिकाउन कहिँ टाडा गई राख्नु पर्दैन। जसरि नजानेका कुरा सोधेर, खोजेर, गरेर, परेर सिकिन्छ त्यसै गरि आफुले जानेका कुरा, आफ्ना सोच विचार, आफ्ना भावना दैनिक जसो share गर्दै जानु। भनेर सकिन्छ भन्नु, लेखेर सकिन्छ लेख्नु, चित्र कोरेर सकिन्छ कोर्नु, सुर-तालमा नाचेर सकिन्छ नाच्नु, संगीत सर्जेर सकिन्छ संगीत बनाउनु। सृजना गर्नु। आफुले सिक्न सकिने छ भने सिक्नु। चलायमान संसारमा यसले गति थप्छ। सोच विचारको मन्थन हुन्छ। केथा देवताले अमृत यसरि नै मन्थन गरेका पो हुन् कि ?

Review & Gratitude

कर्म गर्ने प्राणी हामि। यहाँ प्रयास जरुरि छ। कोसिस जरुरि छ। तर त्यो संगै आफुले गरेको के मिल्यो के मिलेन। कति सहि भयो कति सहि भएँ। कति सफल भयो के असफल भयो। लेखा-जोखा र गणित पनि उत्तिकै महत्वपूर्ण छ। त्यसैले हप्तामा एक दिन, शनिबार या आइतबार छुट्टीको दिन परेर आफ्ना गतिविधिहरुको लेखा-जोखा गर्नु। सफल भयो त कसरि सफल भयो, किन सफल भयो, कसले गर्दा सफल भयो खोजि गर्नु। आफुलाई सघाउने हरुलाई धन्यवाद दिनु।

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Friday, February 5, 2021

शङ्ख र स्याल


बुवा आमाको ५० औं बर्षगाँठ्को अवसर पारेर काठमाडौँको धुलोमैलो बाट केहि दिन विश्राम लिन म यो हप्ता चितवन छु । आफू हुर्केको ठाँउ, धुलो कम, धुवाँ कम, हो-हल्ला कम आनन्द लाग्छ ।

मलाई  यो सन्सारमा म जति कोहि सुत्दैन होला जस्तो लाग्छ । सधैं राती  ८ बजे सुतेर बिहान ८ बजे उठ्ने प्राणी म आज के भयो कुन्नी पौने पाँच बजे मेरो आँखा खुल्यो । माइलो दाजिले राती बिउँझेको बेला घडी हेर्यो भने निद्रा लाग्दैन मनमा कुरा खेलीराक्छ भन्नू हुन्थ्यो एकछिन त्यही कुरा सम्झेर घडी तिर आँखा लगाइन तर मनले मानेन अनि घडी हेरेको ठ्याक्कै पाँच बजेको रहेछ । 

छानो हेरेर टोलाईरहेको थियेँ एक्कासी पुँहु, पुँ गरेर बडा मजाको शङ्ख फुकेको आवाज अलि पर छिमेकको कुनै घर बाट आयो । यो शङ्ख पनि बडा मजाको चिज छ यार ।  करिबन दुई-तीन मिनेट को शङ्खको आवाज पछि त्यो रोकियो । एकछिन आफू हिन्दु परिवारमा जन्मेर हुर्केकोमा गर्व महसुस भैरह्यो । आफू यस्तो संस्कारी छर छिमेक मा बस्ने अहोभाग्य लियेर आईयेको रहेछ । शङ्ख बज्नु, घण्टी बज्नु भगवानका आरति गुन्जनु एउटा दैविक र आध्यात्मिक माहोल दैनिक एक घन्टा बन्नु सानो कुरा हैन जस्तो लाग्छ । आफ्नो संस्कार, परम्परा, रितिरिवाज यसरी दैनिकी बन्दै गुन्जीरहेको सुन्दा मन आनन्दित हुन्छ ।

जमाना फेस्बूक र टुइटरको छ । बिहान सबेरै उठेर हग्न जानू पुर्व सर्सर्ती फेस्बुक र टुइटरमा स्क्रोल गरियेन भने पाद मात्रै आउँछ । सात बजेतिर आलाराम बजायेर जबर्जस्ति उठ्यो, चिया नास्ता गर्यो, येसो टाइम्लाइन चिहायो, खाना खायो, अफिस तिर हान्नियो, कतिबेला पाँच या छ बज्ला भनेर कुर्यो अनि घर फर्कियो । यस्तो हतास र मोडर्न सैलिको दैनिकीले भरिएको अनुभवहरु माज शङ्खको ध्वनीको गुँजले बडा अनौठो अनुभुति दियो आज ।

म अझै छानै हेर्दै थिएँ । यसो भित्ताको घडी तिर आँखा गयो, साडे पाँच बजेछ । अचानक कुहिँया, कु... कुहिँया, कु, को को गर्दै एकहुल स्याल कराए । हाम्रो छिमेकमा भाले कम स्याल ज्यादा छ्न जस्तो लाग्छ । घरबाट ५०० मिटर जति दुरिमा स्यानो खरबारी (जंगल) छ । केहि सालका रुख, बाँस अनि खर । त्यहाँ दुई तीन हुल स्यालले यो एरियामा बस्ती बसेदेखी डेरा जमाएकाछन् । स्यानो छँदा मेरो गुड मर्निङ र गुड नाइट यिनै स्याल बासे पछि हुने गर्थ्यो । बिसौँ बर्ष देखि सुन्दै आएको आवज आजकल खासै बिझाउन्न । एकछिन कराउछन्, रोकिन्छन् । बिचरा जन्तु न परे । 

यो टोलका बासीहरु स्याल कराउनु सङ्ग बानी परिसके । तर कसैले मलाई तेरो गाउँको एउटा मन नपर्ने कुरो सुना भनेर कसैले सोध्यो भने यहि स्याल कराउनु एक नम्बरमा पर्छ । यतिका बर्ष बिताईयो तैपनि झल्यास्स मनमा यस्तो स्याल कराउने ठाउँमा पनि कोहि बस्छ भनेजस्तो हुन्छ ।

यो उमेर अचम्मको हुँदो रैछ । सबै कुरा उमेर कै खेल हो जस्तो लाग्न थालेको छ आजकल । जन्मियो, हुर्कियो, १५-२० को हुँदा सम्म स्कुल गैयो । स्कुल पछि क्याम्पस । क्याम्पस पछि जागिर । जागिर पछि बिहे । बिहे पछि छोराछोरी, परिवार । परिवार पछी घरजम । अहिले तीस काटेर यसो गमेर हेर्दा अब घरजम गर्ने उमेर भयो कि भन्ने भान हुन्छ । खयर भोग्न, देख्न धेरै बाँकी छ । हाललाई यहि घरजमको कुरा गरौँ । 

म आजकल यो घरजमको बिसयलाइ लिएर बडा दोधारमा छु । ल घरजम त गर्ने तर कता गर्ने ? आफू हुर्केको बढेको ठाँउ भर्सेस् आफू पढेको, जागिरमा जमेको ठाउँ । काम धाम सबै छाडेर काठमाडौ छाडेर कुम्ब्लो बोकि चितवन मै पो बस्ने कि? मेरो उमेर थेउरीले फेरि झकझक्याँउछ । हैन गर्ने बेला, गरिखाने बेला आफ्नो कर्म थलो छाडेर कहाँ अन्त बस्नु?

४७ सालमा बाग्लुङको दमेक बाट चितवन आँउदा म ४ बर्षको थिएँ । त्यो बालापन त सबै सम्झन्न तर आफू सम्झिन सक्ने भयेपछीका दिन सम्झिदा यो ठाउँ एउटा सानो २०-३० फराकिलो गरि ठडिएका १-२ इटाले बनेका अरु खर या जस्तापाताका घरहरुको झुन्ड थियो । हामी ८-१० जना केटाकेटीको समुह । साथीहरू माझ खेल, कुद, हाँसो, रुवाइ सबै थियो । गाउँ भरिमा एउटा स्कुल । हामी त्यहीँ पढ्ने । हरेक घरमा भैंसी,गाइ, बाख्रा पाठा । पुग्दो दूध, घिउ । हरेक घरको आफ्नो करेसाबारी । तरकारी किन्नु नपर्ने । नुन र चिनी साबुन किने पुग्ने । तेल आफ्नै बारिको तोरि पेलेर पुग्ने । भात आफ्नै खेतको धानले पुग्ने । आटो पिठो आफ्नै बारिको गहुँ र मकैले पुग्ने । रमाइलो चाहियो ५-६ घर का बुढा पाका जमेर ट्वान्टी-नाइन र दहर मारा खेलेको हेरे पुग्ने । हरेक घर आफैमा पुर्ण लाग्ने । हरेकको जग्गा जमिन प्रसस्त थियो, घरमा कामको खाँचो कहिले थिएन । भोक थिएन, रोग थिएन । पढाई-लेखाई तिर बिस्तारै गाउँले हरुको चाख बस्दै थियो । पढे लेखेका मान्छे भेट्न गारै थियो । खेती किशानी मै मान्छे हरुको दैनिकी सुरु हुन्थ्यो र सकिन्थ्यो । एकमन लाघ्छ, यो पो हो त मैले घरजम गर्न खोजेको दैनिकी । फेरि अर्कोतिर लाग्छ, धत् जमना कहाँ खेतीपाती को रह्यो त? तर बिगत सम्झेर कहिले पो के पो भएको थियो र आज हुन्छ ?

आजकल शरदपुर सिमेन्टका घरहरुले भरिएको छ । यहाँ खाली जग्गा कमै छ । आजकल यहाँ करेसाबारी छैनन । धारे चोकको तरकारी पसलमा ताजा ताजा फलफुल  तरकारी पाइन्छ । या ठेलामा भैया आउँछ, आमै तरकारी चाहियो कराउँदै । यहाँ आजकल खेत छन खेतमा काम गर्ने किशान छैनन । यहाँको खरबारीका रुखका पात हल्लिदा आजकल जापान, अस्ट्रेलिया, पोर्चुगल, अमेरिका तिरको हावा आउँछ । यहाँका स्यालहरु आजकल कराउने हैन रुन्छन जस्तो लाग्छ । 

बाटो घाटो चिल्लो पिच बनेको छ । एक घर दुई पसल को नारा जिबन्त देखिन्छ । एक घर बाट एक जना बिदेश नगएको घर छैन । हुर्केका दौँतरी कहाँ कता छ्न तिनका फेसबुकका फोटा चाहिँ देख्न पाइन्छ । बुढा-पाका स्याहार नपाएर घरमै लडिरहेका छन । केटाकेटी मोबाइलका फोटा र भिडियोमा रुमलिएका छन । न त यहाँ खेल्ने बारि बाँकी छ । न त खेल्ने चाह नै । र फेरि लाग्छ, के यो हो त चितवन मैले घरजम गर्न खोजेको?

काठमाडौ ट्रली बस चल्ने समय देखि हालसम्म मेरो पढ्ने र कर्म गर्ने थलो बनेको छ । तर यो बिशौँ बर्षमा साएदै कमै दिन होलान काठमाडौमा मेरो मन जमेको । मलाई भिडभाड मन पर्दैन, मान्छेहरुको हुल मन पर्दैन । मलाइ मसिन र गाडिहरुको कोलाहल मन पर्दैन । मलाई यसो फुर्सदमा टोलाउन नपाउने दैनिकी मन पर्दैन । काठमाडौंमा त्यस्तो केही छैन जो मन परोस सिवाए आफ्नो काम । काठमाडौंको बयान म एउटा जिब्रो भएको प्रा‍णीले कसरी गरि सकुँला र ।

धेरै ठुलो, नौलो चाह हैन, सामान्य हो । यस्तो होस, बिहान भाले बासेसी निद्रा खुलोस । उठेर सुर्य नमन् गरेर जप-तप गरेसी पार तापेर बस्न पाइयोस । यसो खाना खाइ ओरि होम अफिस तिर अल्झिइयोस । अल्छी लागेर छत तिर निस्के हरियाली दृश्य देख्न पाइयोस् । अफिसको काम सकेसी निस्केर करेसाबारिमा बोट बिरुवासङ्ग खेल्न पाइयोस । भौं, भौं र क्वाँ, क्वाँ गरि भुक्ने र रुने कुकुरहरुको तान्डब सुनेर रातमा बिउझनु नपरोस् । यसो फुर्सद पाए गफमा रमिने दुई-चार छिमेकी हुन् । यत्ति हो चाह !

खएर, लेखेर, भनेर हुने हैन । बिवाह हुन र घर जग्गा जोडिन जुर्नु पर्छ रे अब कहिले जुर्ने हो त्यसैको पर्खाइमा छु । मेरा पाठक कोहि मलाई छिमेकी बनाउन मन छ भने कमेन्टमा लेख्नु होला ।

८ बज्यो अब उठ्ने मेसो गर्न पर्यो । आज शुक्रबार कामको लोड बढी नै छ । लौ त शुभ दिन ।




Wednesday, January 27, 2021

Nepali Jokes & Riddles for Kids

Riddles:


Q: Duita plane udirathyo. Dhwannga Thokyo. Tellai english ma ke bhanincha?
A: Oil

Jokes:

बिहान बिहानै रेडियो बजाउदै

आइते बिहान बिहानै रेडियो बजाउदै जंगल तिर तोइलेट गर्न भनेर हिलेछ
जब टोइलेट गरेर फर्कदै थियो धुर्मुसे ले सोधेछ – ओहो आइते म त मछु कि क्या हो, बिहान बिहानै रेडयो बोकेर हिनिस हँ आइते ..

आइते – टोइलेट गाको नि ..

धुर्मुसे – तेसो भए कस्तो भयो त टोइलेट गराई

आइते – रिसाउदै घण्टा जस्तो —

धुर्मुसे – केरे ??

आइते- टोइलेट गर्नै लाको बेला अचानक रेडयो मा सयौ थुंगा फूलका हामी
एउतै माला नेपाली भन्ने गित बज्यो मुला उठी उठी हग्नु पर्यो


रोडको बीचमा पुलिस

एउटा मोटरसाईकलमा तिनजाना केटाहरु स्पीड आउँछन् |

रोडको बीचमा उभिएर पुलिस कराउँछ : एउटा मोटरसाईकलमा तिन तिन जाना ?? त्यही पनि हेल्मेट छैन horn पनि बजाउदैन, रोक रोक !!

केटाहरु : बाटो छोड़,,, हवलदार साहब !!! यसमा अझै ब्रेक पनि छैन !


तिमि कहिल्यै नुवाउदिनौ 

शेरेले College मा एउटि केटिलाई सोध्यो
तिमि कहिल्यै नुवाउदिनौ कि क्या हो ?
केटि : म सधै नुहाउछु है, तर तिमिले किन सोधेको ?
शेरे : (मुस्कुराउदै) कहिले पनि तिमीले नुहाएको देखेको छैन त्यै भएर सोधेको



सागलाइ होस आयो

मुन्द्रे सब्जी किन्न बजारतिर गएछ।
सब्जिवाला सागमा पानि छम्किदै थियो। मुन्द्रेले पर्खेछ ।

तर जब निक्कै बेर भयो मुन्द्रेले सब्जिवाला लाई भनेछ : साहुजि… त्यो सागलाइ होस आयो भने १ केजि जोख्दिनुस न मलाइ अलिक हत्तार छ क्या !!!



जगडम्बा रड

हाकु : सधैँ सागको टर्रकारी खाँडा खाँडा वाक्क लागिसक्यो बुरी, अरु केहि नयाँ बनाउन आउँदैन टलाई ? ?

पुतली: सागको तरकारीमा त iron हुन्छ नि मेरो राजा ।

हाकु: अनि दिन-दिनै iron ख्वाएर मेरो आचीबाट जगडम्बा रड निकाल्ने बिचार छ कि क्या हो टेरो !


सय वटा खुट्टामा बुट

एकचोटि किराहरु र जनावरहरुको फूटबल म्याच भएछ । हाफ ट्याम हुँदासम्म जनावरहरुले ६ गोल गरेछन्, तर किराहरुले भने गोलै गर्न सकेनछन् । दोश्रो हाफमा किराहरुको कोचले सय खुट्टे अरिमुठे (MILLIPEDE) ल्याएछ । अरिमुठेले दनादन १२ गोल ठोकेछ, किराहरुले १२-६ मा खेल जितेछन् । खेल सकिएपछि पत्रकारहरुले किराको कोचलाई सोधे; "कोचज्यू, यस्तो राम्रो खेल्ने अरिमुठेलाई पहिल्यैबाट किन नखेलाएको?" "पहिल्यैबाट खेलाउने मन त मलाईपनि थियो भाई, तर के गर्ने, बिचरालाई सय वटा खुट्टामा बुट कस्नै हाफ टाइमसम्म लाग्यो ।

फोनको घण्टी

एकजना मुर्ख डाक्टरको मा आफ्नो दुबै कान पोलेर देखाउन गएछ । डाक्टरले सोधेछ , तपाईंको दाँया कान कसरी पोल्यो ? मुर्खले जवाफ दिएछ , म iron लाउदै थिएँ त्यतिकै मा फोनको घण्टी बज्यो , मैले बिर्सेंर फोनको सट्टा iron लाईनै कानमा राखे । डाक्टर: अनी बाँया कान कसरी पोलियो त ? मुर्ख: फोनको घण्टी फेरी बज्यो नि त ...

रगत जचाउनको आको 

दुईजना मान्छे डाक्टरको क्लिनिकमा जचाउनको लागि बसीरहेका थिए । यत्तिकैमा एउटा मान्छे अचानक रुन थाल्यो । अर्को मान्छे छक्क पर्‍यो..
पहिलो : दाई तपाईं किन रुनु भएको ?
दोश्रो : म यहाँ रगत जचाउनको लागि आको त्यसैले रुएको ।
पहिलो :रगत जाँच्न पनि डराएर रुनु पर्छ त ?
दोश्रो : होइन डराएर होइन , रगत जाच्ने क्रममा डाक्टरले मेरो औंला काट्छ नि त्यसैले दुखने सम्झेर रुएको ।
त्यतिकैमा पहिलो मान्छे पनि रुन थाल्यो
दोश्रो : हैन तपाईं चाँही किन रुन थाल्नु भयो ?
पहिलो : तपाईं त रगत जचाउन आउनु भाको । म त पिसाब जचाउन आको त्यसैले 

धरहरा हिजो सम्म त यो यहाँ थिएन

एउटा टुरिस्ट नेपाल भ्रमण गर्न आएछ , उसले एउटा नेपाली गाईड राखेछ र घुम्न गएछ । उनिहरु घण्टाघर नजिक पुगेछ र टुरिस्टले गाईडलाई सोधेछ - यो घण्टाघर बनाउन कती समय लाग्यो ?
गाईड : ५ बर्ष
टुरिस्ट : नेपालीहरु त साह्रै अल्छि रहेछन , हाम्रोमा भए त यो २ बर्षमा बन्ने थियो ।
रानीपोखरी देखे पछि फेरीटुरिस्ट : यो पोखरी बनाउन कती समय लागेको थियो नि ?
गाईड : यो त १ बर्ष मै बनाइ सकिएको थियो ।
टुरिस्ट : तिमीहरु साह्रै अल्छि रहेछौ हाम्रोमा भए त यो ५ महिनामा बन्ने थियो ।
घुम्दा घुम्दै उनिहरु धरहरा नजिक पुगेछन
टुरिस्ट : यो धरहरा बनाउन कती समय लागेको थियो नि
गाईड : खै थाहा भएन, हिजो सम्म त यो यहाँ थिएन 

आफ्नो लुगा अरुले लगाको

प्रेमी – हैन ! तिमीले यो मिनीस्कर्ट लगाएको देखेर घरमा बुवाले गाली गर्नु हुन्न ?
प्रेमीका – अहँ ! गर्नु हुन्न तर आमाले चाँहि साह्रै गाली गर्नु हुन्छ ।
प्रेमी – बुवाले चाँहि केही नभन्ने अनि आमाले चाँही किन त्यती धेरै गाली गर्ने नि ?
प्रेमीका – आमा आफ्नो लुगा अरुले लगाको मनै पराउनु हुन्न ।

यत्रो धेरै पैसा तेरो बाउले गन्छ

बैँक लुटी सकेर लुटेराहरुले बैँकको क्यासियरलाई पनि सँगै लान खोजेछक्यासियर : बैँक त लुटेए सक्यौ , अब मलाई किन साथै लान लागेको ?लुटेरा : अब यत्रो धेरै पैसा तेरो बाउले गन्छ त ?

भ्रम

स्वास्नी : "हिजो राती निन्द्रामा तिमी मलाई गाली गर्दै थियौ नि!"
लोग्ने : "तिमीलाई भ्रम पर्यो जस्तो छ।"
स्वास्नी : "कस्तो भ्रम??"
लोग्ने : म निदाएको थिए भनेर!!


खसेको चिजलाई नउठानुस

"बाबु आमा र छोरा बजार घुमने क्रममा छोरालाई आईस्क्रिम किनीदिएछ र छोराले त्‍यो आईस्क्रिम खानै नपाई खसेछ छिटो-छिटो टिप्‍नखोज्‍दा आमा चाँहीले भनेछ : छि खसेको चिजलाई नटिप म अर्कै किनिदीउला अनि एकछिनपछी हिड्‍दा हिड्‍दै बाबु चाही लडेछ हत्‍त पत्‍त आमाले उठाउन खोज्‍दा छोराले भनेछ खसेको चिजलाई नउठानुस आमा म अर्कै बुबा खोजिदिउला ।

काल कती प्रकारको हुन्छ 

शिक्षक : राम भन त काल कती प्रकारको हुन्छ ?
राम : ३ प्रकारको सर
शिक्षक : स्याबास , अब तिनै वटाको एउटा एउटा उदाहरण देउ त
राम : सर , मैले हिजो तपाईंको छोरीलाई देखेको थिए , आज म उनिलाई माया गर्छु र भोली म उसलाई भगाएर लानेछु ।



Tuesday, November 17, 2020

Nepali Pasa game rules

पासा खेल दशैंँ तिहारमा साथीभाई परिवार जन बिच खेलिने रमाइलो खेल हो । धेरै पैसा हानेर जुवाको रुपमा खेल्दा यो खेलमा हार्नेले घर घडेरी गुमाउनु परेका कथा सुन्न पाइन्छ । यो खेल केबल मनोरञ्जनको लागी खेल्दा ठिक हुन्छ । चलन चल्तिका नियम यस प्रकार छन:

- 3 game pieces, 3 टा पासा
- 1, 2, 5, 6 ko butta
- 13,15,17,18 khane dau (paro/परो) - 4 dau
- 3,4,6,9 tirne dau (tiro/तिरो) - 4 dau
- 5,7,8,10,11,12,14, 16 - bachyo / बच्यो - 8 dau
- 15 ko khane dau ma bot collection for pasa owner
- euta 5, euta 1 pare sure bachyo
- tinta 2 halhale / हल्हले ६
- 6, 6, 1 - tike 13 paro / टिके तेह्र 

Saturday, April 16, 2016

आखिर तैले किन लेख्छस ?

क्याम्पस पढ्दा साथीले आखिर तैले किन लेख्छस भनेर सोधेको प्रश्नको उत्तर अहिले सम्म भेटेको छैन । पाँच बर्ष अघि मैले किन लेख्छु भनेर गम्ने जमर्को गरेको थिएँ । आज फेरी उही बिषय बस्तुमा फरक समय, स्थान र फरक प्रसंगमा लेख्ने मेसो मिलेको छ। म समय र परिस्थिति बदलिंदा सोचाई र भोगाई पनि संगसंगै बदलिन्छन भन्ने मान्छे !


लेखक, ऊ आफ्नो एउटा ब्यक्तिगत सोच अनि भोगाईको परिधि भित्र रमिरहेको हुन्छ । एउटा व्यक्तिगत सिमाना, आफ्नो परिधि, नितान्त आफ्नो । जुनबेला ऊ नितान्त आफु आफ्नो होस् । ऊ आफूसँग बोलोस् । ऊ आफुलाइ सुनोस । अनि आफु छु भन्ने भोगाइको एकोहोरो मजा लुटोस । कोरिएका शब्द अनी तिनमा कुँद्न खोजीएका भोगाई बीचमा यो ब्यक्तिगत परिधिको बिशेस महत्व हुन्छ । शब्द कोर्न फुर्सद जरुरि छ, लगाव जरुरि छ अनी शब्द कुँद्न सोच जरुरि छ !

जमाना कहाँ बाट कहाँ पुग्यो । दशैंमा बा को हातको टिको मान्छेले स्काइप,भाईबर र फेसबुकमाँ लगाए भनेर सुनियो । गूगल ह्यंगआउटमा छिमेकी अस्ट्रेलियन दाईका परिवार र अमेरिका बस्ने भतीजले मिलेर नेपालमा ठुल्दाईलाई भट्याउन लगाएर क्यानडाका फुपुको छोराले इसेवाबाट दक्षिणा अर्पण गरे अरे । जहाँ परिधि, परिस्थितको बोध थियो त्यहाँ कुनै एक रमझम साँझ मनाईयो । जहाँ बोध थिएन त्यहाँ यो ढोंग भनियो । प्रविधिले यो संसारलाई सेकेन्ड-सेकेन्ड जोडिन सक्ने बनायो । संसारको जुनै कुनाको बार्दलीमा बसेर लेखे नी हरेक कुनामा पढ्न मिल्ने भयो ! संचारका साधन अनेक आए । प्रविधिले बोल्ने, लेख्ने बाटा अनेक बने । प्रकाशनका अनेक माध्यम बने । 

अनी सृजनाको नाममा धेरै अक्षर केरकार गरिए । नेपाली नलेख्ने नेपालीहरुले नेपाली लेख्न थाले ! यहाँ लेख त केरिए तर पाठक भेटिएनन् । बाटा अनेक बने तर बटुवा हराए । लेखक बेफ़ुर्सद बनिदिए । पाठक बेफ़ुर्सद बनिदिए । जुन प्रविधिले संचार सजिलो बनायो त्यहि प्रविधिले मान्छेको फुर्सद बाँडिदियो । छीन का छीन लेखेको लेखै, सुनकै सुनै, बोलको बोलै अनि खोजेको खोजै गर्ने प्रबिधिको जंजाल माँ फसेर मान्छे यहाँ न शब्दका पारखी रहे, न धुन का । न रंगका शोखिन आय न ढोंग का । न फुर्सदका।  न गफका, न चौतारिका । न बाघचाल खेले मान्छेले न गुलेली । न हाम्रा गीतमा पीडा छन्, न खुसि !  हाम्रा फिलिममा न कथा छन्, न व्यथा, न समाज न संस्कार ! हाम्रा कलामा न इतिहास छन् न भबिष्य ! हाम्रा पत्रिकामा न पत्रकारिता छन् न यथार्तता ! देश मा न भेष छ, न देशवासी को परिभाषा ! राजनीतिमा न सोच छन् न सपना ! यहाँका मनशामा न सुर छन् न ताल ! सर्जकहरुले कसका लागि सृजना गरुन ? लेख्नेहरुले के का लागि लेखुन ? पढ्नेलाई बुझ्ने फुर्सद रहेन । लेख्नेलाई कुँद्ने फुर्सद रहेन । फुस्रा लेखाई अनी खोस्टा बुझाईले समाज कता जाओस ! अनि सृजना पैसा भयो । पैसा सृजना बन्न सकेन। समय रुपियाँ भयो रुपियाँ फुर्सद बन्न सकेन ।

लेख्नका लागि लेख्नु, आफ्ना लागि लेख्नु, समयका लागि लेख्नु  र पाठकका लागी लेख्नु बिचका भोगाईहरु मैले एक एक गरि भोग्ने मौका पाएको छु । धेरै पछि मैले आज एक पाठक भेटेको छु । जसले मेरो सृजना बुझ्ने चासो राखेको छ । जसले मेरा शब्दहरुको अर्थ खोजेको छ । जसले कोसिस गरेको छ २-४ प्रश्न सोध्न । अनि जसले मेरो भोगाई भोग्ने सोच बाँडेको  छ । दुरिमा कहाँ छ, कता छ तर ऊ यो समयमा साथमा छ । मेरा लेखमा छ । मैले त्यो पाठक को लागि लेख्दै छु । जसलाई मैले एक कप चिया र गफ दिन सकिन उसलाई मेरा सृजना दिने जमर्को गरेको छु । 

Monday, April 4, 2016

चिठी

सन् १९९६ को मे महिना, छिमेकी कृष्ण दाइले कतार बाट पठाएको चिठी मेरो हातमा थमाइयो । मैले आवेग बिहिन समाचार वाचिकाले झैँ खरर पढेर भाउजु र उहाँकी ३ बर्षे छोरीलाई सुनाइदिनु पर्ने । म भर्खर अक्षर चिनेर पढ्न सकने भएको मान्छे । हलहल केहि मेसो लाउन अनि अर्थ्याउन सक्ने । तर त्यो चिठीको भोगाई मेरो भोगाईको परिधि भन्दा बाहिरको कुरो । र त्यो समयको मेरो कर्म एक-अक्षर फरक नपारि पढेर सुनाउनु थियो जुन मेरो स्कूल बाहिर मैले भोगेको जिन्दगीको पहिलो परिक्षा जस्तो मानेथें मैले ।



चिठी पढ्दै गर्दा अनि पढेर सकिन लाग्दाको बीचमा प्रविना की आमाका आँखा रसाएर नारायणीमा भदौको भेल आए जस्तो बरर आँशु खसेको देखेर म हल्का भाबुक भएको मलाई हिजो हो जस्तो लाग्छ । तर त्यो भेलमा आँशु थियो आबाज थिएन ! त्यो मौनता मा शान्ती थियो तर छटपटी थिएन । छोरीलाई चपक्क आँला हालेर म तीर हेर्दा भाउजूका ती आँखा रसीला थिए तर त्यहाँ पीडा थिएन । त्यो अनुहार न्याउरो देखिन्थ्यो तर त्यहाँ हतास थिएन । ती ओठ आधी खुलेका थिए मानौ एक बर्ष सम्म नफेरेर रोकेको शास मन्द पवन झैँ , हिउँ परेझैं गतिमा फुसफुस बाहिर उडाई रहिएको होस् । त्यो दृश्य बढो सरल थियो । त्यो दृश्यमा मैले बिश्वास भेटेको थिएँ । मैले प्रेम भेटेको थिएँ । मैले आशा देखेको थिएँ अनि खुसी देखेको थिएँ । त्यो दृश्यमा दोधार थिएन । छोरी को कपाल मुसार्दै भाउजुले उसका गाला दुईटा हातले हल्का बाहिर बिस्तारै तानेर छाड्दा पुक् गरेर आएको आवाज ले म र प्रवीना गलल हाँसेका थिएम् । र त्यो चिठिको, त्यो कागज़ र ती शब्द र लडबडीएका अक्षरहरुको त्यहाँ केहि माने रहेन । भाउजु छोरी बोकेर आफ्नो घर छिरिंन । मैले खासै केहि सोचेर साँचेको हैन तर मनमा एउटा सानो प्रश्न रह्यो - यो चिठी पढेर त सुनाए तर मैले कती बुझें, के बुझिन ? र तखतामा कुनै एउटा मेरो पुस्तकमा छुस्स छिराइदिएँ ।

त्यसको २ वर्ष जति पछि स्कूलबाट घर फर्किने बेला एउटी सहपाठीले हातमा चिठी थमाईदिई । त्यो मैले पढेर सुनाउनु नपर्ने पहिलो चिठी थियो । मेरो नाममा सम्बोधित प्रेम पत्र । चिठी पढ्ने तर नबुझ्ने काममा अनुभबि मान्छे मैले त्यो पत्रको समर्पण त्यतिखेर बुझिन ! आझ याद मात्र छन् , समय आफ्नो रहेन !

क्याम्पस भर्ना भएको दोश्रो बर्ष। अंग्रेजी पडाउने सरले यसरी भाषा भनेको के हो भनेर छर्लंग बनाइदिए की बल्ल नेपाली भाषा राम्रो सँग बुझ्न र लेख्न सिकियो । शब्द र अर्थमा समय मिसाऊन सिकियो ! बिगतमा खाली रटियो , अनि कैले कालो र निलो मसिले कापीमा केरकार मात्र गरियो । 

मैले लेखेको रैन रे छु । मैले पढेको रैछु तर बुझेको रैन रै छु ! र मैले सम्झिन थाले । अनि बुझ्न थाले चिठिहरु । चिठी भित्रका परिधिहरु, परिस्थिहरु अनी दुरीहरु । चिठी भित्रका आत्मियता र प्रेमहरु । चिठी भित्रका बिश्वास, आशा र सपनाहरु । जानी जानी नादेखाईएका दर्दहरु । नजानी-नजानी केरिएका वासनाहरु । सोचहरु । आशिर्बादहरु । अनि सम्झनाहरु । बाचाहरु । अनुभब र भोगाइहरु । पशुपति नाथ का प्रार्थनाहरु ।

समय न हो चिठिको ठाउँमा एस.एम.एस र इमेल आउन थाले । एस.एम.एस र ईमेलमा संदेश थिए तर भोगाई थिएनन् । खबर थिए तर अनुभब थिएनन । चाह थिए तर समर्पण थिएनन् । यो संचारले दुरी कम भएको हो की बढेको हो बुझ्न सारो थियो । सायद बर्षा त्यसैले बर्षमा एक मौसममा हुने होला । जाड़ो सायद त्यसैले बर्षमा एक मौसममा हुने होला । 

अनी सायद समयले भर्ने होला सृजनामा भोगाइ । सायद त्यो पर्खाइले दिने होला शब्द को वजन । सायद त्यो बिश्वासले भर्ने होला शब्द भित्र भावना । नत्र प्यारी राधिका भनेर मैले सुनाइदिंदा भाउजुका आखाँ किन त्यसरी रसाउथे होला र ?

Sunday, April 3, 2016

What is worth remembering ?

I used to remember that life changed when perspective changed. But, perspectives are the results not the reasons, perspective is our impression, interpretation, shaped by what we choose to remember. It might not exist.

Every moment, every moment is alive, life is in the things that you observe, life is in the people you love. Everyone you meet is afraid of something, loves something, and has lost something. That's what it means to be alive. But then they (people) aren't actually against you; they are for themselves. Things aren't against you; they are for themselves. You can choose to be there where you are loved and celebrated not tolerated. It's easier to make choices and to go beyond limitations by acknowledging them, by forgiving.

After a choice is made what happens is an experience. Experience is a n-dimensional interpretation of a moment most of the time. We then try to remember a fraction of the interpretation. Like artists paint the moment. Like musician sing the pain. Like authors create a romance. Like lovers love. Like chefs cook. Like kids laugh.

Given the moment what's worth experiencing ? What is worth interpreting ? What is worth remembering ? Why remember at all ? It's not the question its the answer. Why not decide not to make a choice ? But then there is a choice that is made. Why, may be we forgot !

Its easy to remember to wake up in the morning but not to remember why ? That's the reason Sun rises every morning to remind us that every day we could choose to create new memories for a life ahead. Make a choice to remember what you want to have in life or try not to forgot to laugh like a kid. Remember that memories shape us. It certainly has.

Wednesday, March 2, 2016

Bad words on bad mood is bad


Don't mix bad words with your bad mood. You'll have many opportunities to change a mood, but you'll never get the opportunity to replace the words you speak.

The Big Circle

Be water my friend !!!



Empty your mind, be formless, shapeless - like water. Now you put water into a cup, it becomes the cup, you put water into a bottle, it becomes the bottle, you put it in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Now water can flow or it can crash. Be water, my friend.

Be water, my friend !

Monday, October 5, 2015

Know Where To Mark a Cross (x)

The value of work done vs. value of the knowledge behind it. 



Nikola Tesla once visited Henry Ford at his factory, which was having some kind of difficulty. Ford asked Tesla if he could help identify the problem area. Tesla walked up to a wall of boilerplate and made a small X in chalk on one of the plates. Ford was thrilled, and told him to send an invoice.

The bill arrived, for $10,000. Ford asked for a breakdown. Tesla sent another invoice, indicating a $1 charge for marking the wall with an X, and $9,999 for knowing where to put it.

It takes a lot of time and experience to know the ideas that should be executed (and how), and if you can be rewarded for that, then all the better. Knowing which ideas to execute, when is the key. Knowledge isn't power, acting on that knowledge is. Similarly, ideas are worthless without execution. Action speaks louder always.

If someone is tempted to hire a freelancer at $5 for 6+ months (1000 hours), why not just pay someone more capable $5,000 to get it done in a month (160 hours) ?

The value of knowledge vs work equation is incomplete without consideration of the time. The time estimates works only when we know the values we are after.

Legends:
$5 = Worth of a Coffee cup. 
$5000 = Worth of a vacation to the Annapurna.

Monday, March 23, 2015

Do you believe in life after delivery ?

In a mother’s womb were two babies. One asked the other: “Do you believe in life after delivery?” The other replied, “Why, of course. There has to be something after delivery. Maybe we are here to prepare ourselves for what we will be later.” “Nonsense” said the first. “There is no life after delivery. What kind of life would that be?”

The second said, “I don’t know, but there will be more light than here. Maybe we will walk with our legs and eat from our mouths. Maybe we will have other senses that we can’t understand now.”

The first replied, “That is absurd. Walking is impossible. And eating with our mouths? Ridiculous! The umbilical cord supplies nutrition and everything we need. But the umbilical cord is so short. Life after delivery is to be logically excluded.”

The second insisted, “Well I think there is something and maybe it’s different than it is here. Maybe we won’t need this physical cord anymore.”

The first replied, “Nonsense. And moreover if there is life, then why has no one has ever come back from there? Delivery is the end of life, and in the after-delivery there is nothing but darkness and silence and oblivion. It takes us nowhere.”

“Well, I don’t know,” said the second, “but certainly we will meet Mother and she will take care of us.”

The first replied, “Mother? You actually believe in Mother? That’s laughable. If Mother exists then where is She now?”

The second said, “She is all around us. We are surrounded by her. We are of Her. It is in Her that we live. Without Her this world would not and could not exist.”

Said the first: “Well I don’t see Her, so it is only logical that She doesn’t exist.”

To which the second replied, “Sometimes, when you’re in silence and you focus and you really listen, you can perceive Her presence, and you can hear Her loving voice, calling down from above.”

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(Checking out the comment looks like the sharer on facebook also isn't the original author of this master piece)